I don’t admit to being bad at many things. It’s a pride issue. If I don’t know how to do it, I will admit that, but I will try my best to learn it. (Unless it’s switching blog hosts – thank you CMD!) One thing that is very difficult for me to admit is that I get wrapped up in all of the wrong guys.
I know that many women do this. It’s the reason for all of those “nice guys finish last” songs. But I’m not just referring to the asshole. You know him. He’s the bad guy with the almost endearing arrogance and you think you can change him with your charm (you can’t.) I’m talking about the unattainable guy. The “she can reach me, but I can never reach her” kind of guy. Distance, emotional barriers and girlfriends are apparently all things I look for in a guy these days.
Since the big breakup of ’08 it’s been easier for me to fall for guys who are completely unattainable. Call it crazy, but I’m going to go out on a limb here and say it’s a defense mechanism. I get wrapped up in the guy who lives states away because all of the distance prevents us from ever really getting close. I fall for the guy with a girlfriend because she will always be there. There’s always an out for me. It’s very “I Heart You Online.” There’s always an excuse for me to not get completely involved. And yet all I want to do is connect with someone. It’s so weird.
I really wish I was more excited about pursuing a relationship with a single someone who lives in my city. I don’t want to date the same guy all over again. I don’t think I could handle another up and down long-distance relationship. So why do I get in line for the same ride over and over?
What’s one thing you’re not good at?
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I have to pick ONE thing I’m not good at?
Fuck. Here’s five things I suck at:
1) making good decisions
2) not going after boys who are “fixer-uppers”
3) planning anything
4) being remotely on time
5) swallowing pills.
Joy @ Big Time Fancy´s last blog ..Weatherman
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When at home I have a very difficult time of staying FOCUSED. I start to clean and then find something I want to read that I found while cleaning. I start to wash dishes and realize that I forgot to water the plants. ::sigh::
sara.jane´s last blog ..Makes me smile
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I’m really bad at making decisions of any kind. It’s a curse and makes everything much more stressful than it needs to be.
Lindsay´s last blog ..Mind Like a Steel Trap
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I only fall for guys with girlfriends or guys I don’t know. I usually get upset that they aren’t into me even though they shouldn’t be, you know?
I also make a big deal out of things and get stressed easily. Bleugh.
Taylor´s last blog ..Why didn’t I give him my number??
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I’m guilty of falling for the wrong guys too, because they don’t have expectations. I can call or not call. I can sleep over if I want to. I can tell them I’m seeing other guys to make them jealous. The sad part is, is that once you get caught up making the same mistakes, it’s hard to break the cycle. But it is possible, right? I sure hope so.
Courtney´s last blog ..Gangsta yo!
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I’m bad at quite a bit, but in the window of this conversation, I’m sporting a history of quite ‘emotionally needy’ ex-girlfriends.
I’m a pretty sensitive guy (yawn), but I think in the past I’ve gotten involved in ‘fixer uppers’, like Joy said.
Breaking up with my last ex was a big step in realizing that, and since I think it’s contributed to my hesitation in the face of pursuing my next real relationship.
DShan´s last blog ..What The Who
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I think i might just be attracted to assholes because we’ll at least have that in common. That’s the strangest thing, I guess, I don’t want to be with someone nice because they’ll make me feel guilty but being with someone as bad as me at least makes me feel… neutral.
Kat Argonza´s last blog ..Tornado Watch
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Hmmm, well it sounds like you know what’s going on… so maybe you should try NOT to do fall for those kind of guys?
That being said, since my most recent breakup I’ve just decided, eh let me be single for a while. And I’m enjoying it. I recommend it too…
Ari´s last blog ..San Antonio Zoo
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Boy, can I relate to defense mechanisms. I am not good at just letting things be. I’m not a worrier really, but I analyze everything. Trying to stop that and just live.
Molly´s last blog ..why should they?
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I’m terrible at recognizing on time when a guy is interested in me. Every guy I’ve had feelings for has liked me back, but I’ve always been too late at realizing it, and then they aren’t interested. I wrote a blog entry about it a while ago: http://lovelila.wordpress.com/2009/05/31/flirting-does-not-come-easily-to-the-oblivious/
I’m working on it, lol
Britt´s last blog ..Indefinable (A Love Lila Series) – Chapter Five
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I’m a terrible procrastinator.
And I am really horrible about leaving expensive gadgets in non-retrievable places.
Hope´s last blog ..A Stranger’s Just a Friend You Haven’t Met
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I was always guilty of falling for guys who weren’t in town because it was so much easier than dealing with guys who were. A boyfriend out of town is so much easier to deal with because you don’t have to work out the kinks of everyday life with that person. It’s always so special to see them, so everything feels so nice.
Until Tim burst that bubble wide open and I’ve stuck to the in-town boys since then. Learned my lesson – can’t get to know anyone when you don’t have to deal with the everyday.
Rebekah´s last blog ..How very, very convenient
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Things I’m not good at (I’ll keep it to 5):
1) Drawing boundaries
2) Attracting the right kind of guys
3) Being attracted to the right kind of guys
4) Saying no
5) Being a trapeze artist.
Katy´s last blog ..Is it possible? I have a…break?
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