Comments on: Hello, it’s me again

By: Maxie

Maxie — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 02:37:47 +0000

Honestly? I just remind myself how embarrassed I’d be if I tried to contact him and he was an ass just like he ALWAYS is. That’s the only thing that can keep me away.

By: Katy

Katy — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 20:23:37 +0000

i think it’s important to try and see what it would look like from his point of view if you were to contact him. i feel like it would communicate to him that you still haven’t fully moved on and that you still think of him, that there is still a need for you to feel that you are important to him. and even if that IS true right now, he doesn’t need to know it. he doesn’t get to have the power or the satisfaction of knowing that someone out there is still thinking of him.

YOU get to have the power in this situation, and you are the only one who can empower yourself. even if you have weak moments, the fact that you choose not to contact him will empower you and get you closer to where you need to go.

there is so much more in the world for you to experience, and once you are in a situation that is even greater than what you had with him, you’ll be glad you didn’t dwell on him for a second longer than you needed to. i promise.

By: Mr. Apron

Mr. Apron — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 20:54:16 +0000

Buy a TASER. When tempted to contact ex-lover, TASE self. I promise, ill-advised contact will be reduced to naught. Mr. Aprons last blog post..This Deadened Soul

By: Amanda

Amanda — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 05:46:48 +0000

Love the song reference! Anywhoo-- I'm going to agree with everyone in that deletion is the best thing to do. It's tough, I know. I'm still getting over an ex, and found myself wanting to call him just last week (we've been broken up for almost a year). Living in a different time zone definitely helped me with my restraint. Goodluck, and keep your chin up!! Amandas last blog post..Pants on Fire

By: Lauren

Lauren — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 01:15:26 +0000

I was never able to. The ones I still liked after a break up I (masochistically) kept in touch with. The evil ones I learned how to avoid. Laurens last blog post..Book Review: The Time Traveler's Wife

By: busy pretending

busy pretending — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 20:00:54 +0000

ugh. You know what I think about? I think about how mortified I would be if I called or texted and the first thing he said back was "I have a new girlfriend. And she is nothing like we were. I really love her." There is nothing more terrifying than, "Hi, I'm not over you" and the response is "I am, and she is better." Want to know how I know? Been there. Done that. He is an awesome guy, you are an awesome girl- and you are probably both more awesome for having known each other. Keep your dignity and the old photos. You will appreciate the fact that you have both later. busy pretendings last blog post..ignoring you, ignoring me

By: Joy @ Big Time Fancy

Joy @ Big Time Fancy — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 18:42:47 +0000

I don't avoid it. I talk to them all the time. Invariably, they will do enough dumb things to knock them off the pedestal I've put them on, and we can keep on bring friends. Joy @ Big Time Fancys last blog post..Madras

By: Peter

Peter — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 17:53:12 +0000

Thankfully I'm an egomaniac and expect them to contact me. And if they don't, then I'll refuse to contact them out of spite. (I'm kidding. Mostly.) Peters last blog post..You know it’s time that we grow old and do some shit

By: mari

mari — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 14:21:39 +0000

Take everyone’s advice as to deleting ways to contact him, etc. The truth is, it comes down to will power. Distract yourself, fill your time with other things. Blogging is good – even if you don’t publish everything you write you can just type out your feelings instead of spilling them to him. Good luck!

By: Matt

Matt — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 14:20:48 +0000

"How do you avoid contacting your exes?" Restraining orders prevent me from attempting. Just kidding. Time... time... time... is the only thing that gets you over people. Matts last blog post..I tried to make this post gender neutral