- I never drink a lot because I’m concerned about my liver. I worry that one day my dad might need a piece of it.
- I didn’t visit my grandpa in the hospital because it’s too hard to see him there. I feel selfish and know that I’ll regret it.
- I still haven’t gone to visit my aunt’s grave. It’s been more than a year since she’s died. I haven’t visited my grandma’s either. She’s been gone for 7. It makes me angry that after all this time she still doesn’t have a gravestone and I can’t afford to give her one.
- I’m lactose intolerant, but I continue to eat cereal, pizza, and ice cream.
- I’ve worked really hard to determine and create the boundaries I need, but I don’t always enforce them.
- I write on my blog more than I write in my paper journal. I worry that one day i will want to look back on all of this and it won’t be here.
- When my favorite TV character is happy, I smile; when they’re sad, I cry.
- I say “no worries” even when something bothers me. I just don’t like making a big deal out of something so small.
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I was the same way with my grandpa. I only visited him a few times in the hospital and hospice during his last months of life, and I do regret it, but also know that he knew I loved him. Still, if I could go back, I’d have visited a whole lot more.
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I highly recommend you go see your family’s graves. I always wanted to get down to see my grandparent’s graves but never really got there for one reason or another and couldn’t fit the 6 hour round trip into my schedule. I finally got there over the summer, just so happened to be driving by the area, and once there, I felt so terrible that I hadn’t been there sooner.
You are stronger than you give yourself credit for.
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I am not a hospital person….don’t know why. Seeing my prideful Grandpa be so sick was hard.
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I never saw the point in visiting graves, and I have never been even the least bit interested in doing so. I dunno…I just don’t feel like there is anything there. I can think about them on my own without visiting a certain place.
As for the hospital, well…it just means so much for people to get visitors. No one enjoys going, but the minor inconvenience is much less than the joy that the patient will get. Fortunately, Grampa is OK, and you can go an visit him at his house now!
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Who is your favorite tv character?
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Ain’t that the truth!
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I was the same way with my great-grandma, it was so hard to see her in the condition she was in the hospital.
I’ve been writing more on my blog than in my journal as well.
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I think you need to find what suits you with the family situation, sometimes grave-sites just aren’t for people. Maybe you have a special place, or a chair, or a record, or a piece of clothing, or a photo you can use when you want to remember them and pay respects, it doesn’t have to be a grave, you can use a sentimental place or object to do the same thing.
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This is going to sound crazy, but when my dad died I didn’t go see him in the hospital. I went and saw him the entire time before that (he was in a coma for months), but the day they told us it was over I didn’t go. He was still in a coma and ALL of my family decided to go. I really don’t regret not going. It turned out to be exactly as I knew it would– my family (other than my awesome mom) all made his death about THEM and I’m so glad that I can remember my Dad without having to think about him in that horrible setting.
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When my grandmother was hospitalized in Maryland, I thought I should go. My parents didn’t want to make a big deal of it. They said stay. I never had a chance to override their decision. My grandmother passed away later that day. If you still have a chance, go.
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My dad has never been to his father’s grave even though it has now been almost 30 years. I want to go one day but I have no idea where it is.
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I’ve gone to visit my grandparents in the hospital, and my dad actually had us come, when I was 7 years old, to be with my grandma when she passed away. That was really terribly difficult, and he didn’t repeat it when my grandfather passed away.
For hospital visits, its not about you, it’s about them. It’s harder for them to be there than it is for you to go, and not going doesn’t mean they’re not there. But while I was there with her when she passed away, I realized the other day that I don’t even know where my grandparents are buried, or when they died exactly. I’m not sure how to ask my dad those questions.
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Aww.. but you should always let it off your chest if something is bothering you.
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i think visiting anyone in the hospital or at a grave is always hard. i have a really tough time doing it too, you are definitely not alone there.
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I alway say “no worries” ESPECIALLY when something bothers me. And i don’t really like going to visit graves.
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great minds think alike because i wrote a confessions blog today too!
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I created a back of my blog because i too fear not having it to look back on.
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Us girls are so empathetic. I laugh and cry so much as well with tv and movies. AND BOOKS!
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Oh honey. Going to visit a family’s gravestone is very tough, but it’s important to do. You don’t have to stay long or have a conversation, but going there is something important. I have only gone twice since my grandfather died but I always say hello and “see you soon.” It helps.
It’s okay not to visit your grandpa in the hospital too. Those are very emotional and tough situations to see people you love in, but you’re going to see him tonight and that’s a step. He knows you’re with him.
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i’m dairy intolerant too. only mine isnt lactose, it’s milk protein. i dont know what to call that tho…
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I feel the EXACT same way about my blog as opposed to my paper journal. I also say ‘no worries’ even if something is bothering me. I like to downplay whatever hurts.
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This might seem like the superficial thing to comment on, but I do that with TV characters too. I think I relate and feel for/with them too much though, because the emotions I have when watching some of my favorite shows carry over long after the TV is off…
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I didn’t go see my grandfather in his final stages because my dad didn’t want me too. I blame my dad for my angst over that but I was 18, I really blame myself.
On a lighter note, everytime I come to your blog, I sing “free and easy down the road I go” it makes me happy. You make me happy.
Also, Sonny and Brenda really are my friends and they belong together and someday really will be. (General Hospital)
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You can get your blog printed as a book so that you have a hard copy of it. blurb.com is a good way to go for that.
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Wow. Those are really powerful confessions.
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hmmm…you got some seriously deep thoughts today…
you’ve got some really great stuff…I agree you should print your bloggie…you never know what could happen..
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I think just honoring your self is the best solution. You know what feels best for you and what ever that is, it’s ok.
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I think that your aunt and grandma can know you care without you needing to visit a specific location. They can feel it.
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