Comments on: Who ever said “love is being stupid together” is stupid

By: k

Tue, 10 Jun 2008 05:11:05 +0000

just clicked on your blog because google reader “suggested” it, and all i have to say is i understand all of this completely. it is more or less the story of my last two breakups (i feel like i am the idoit for putting myself through it twice). i know it doesn’t make it any better, but i understand…

By: Alice

Alice — Tue, 13 May 2008 18:20:10 +0000

not much we can say to make it better. keep airing the poo-poo, though, that always helps. and we’re all here to listen. *hugs*

By: somechick84

somechick84 — Tue, 13 May 2008 01:47:15 +0000

I’m sorry you’re having such a rough time. It will get better and you will find the better you deserve!

By: erikka

erikka — Mon, 12 May 2008 20:01:58 +0000

Jenn…how does his leaving you hanging, not making you a priority, and not being fully ‘in’ your relationship not qualify him as a dick…? just wondering.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Mon, 12 May 2008 15:15:58 +0000

Oh my goodness do I know what you’re going through! I know hearing words of wisdom from a stranger doesn’t exactly mean the most, but still–believe me, I know how you feel. Just recently, I got out of a two year relationship that was, for over half of it, long distance. I was in love and saw white picket fences. We ended with him admitting he didn’t love me and that he had to do this.
\

\
Which led to tears and loads of SatC episodes.
\

\
So my advice? At the moment, it’s okay to miss him and not think he’s terrible. Be sad. And then be angry. Anger helps a bit too–even if it’s just yelling some random insults about him to your friends over cocktails.
\

\
But, rather than remembering the terrific times you had, think of what was wrong with the relationship, what wasn’t perfect. How he should have thought about you when making decisions. You’re what’s important now. It may feel impossible, but believe me…a few months down the line things do get easier.

By: Fabulously Broke

Fabulously Broke — Sun, 11 May 2008 15:35:23 +0000

He WAS a coward for not telling you sooner. Don’t guys understand that it’s easier to be honest up front than to lie the whole way?
\

\
I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but I’m going to link love it because I really love the post (for the writing/rant… not because you’re in pain)

By: B2G

B2G — Sat, 10 May 2008 23:01:31 +0000

Oh bud, I know EXACTLY what you’re going through. I don’t know how many times I asked myself with my ex… “Why won’t he FIGHT for me?!” It’s sad that the harsh reality is that if it was worth it to him… he’d be fighting, and he’s not. I’m so sorry bud. It took 5 months but now I found someone who will fight… and fights everyday by making the right choices. You will too, I promise. But you’ll probably have to start with letting go.

By: Angela

Angela — Sat, 10 May 2008 15:32:35 +0000

You can just take your relationship status off facebook altogether. I had mine blank for several months (in fact, it was blank all the way through the process of dating Ex #2… He didn’t care, as he was “married” to his male best friend… but whatever).

By: tipptalk

tipptalk — Sat, 10 May 2008 14:55:16 +0000

My advice? Just be sad. It is Ok to miss him and his arms and his smell.
\

\
You don’t have to jump right to anger or closure. That is not realistic. When my last relationship ended (badly!) I really had to take the time to get over it.
\

\
If I had jumped right into being OK I wouldn’t have healed properly.
\

\
So sorry you are so sad. But it is OK to feel that way.

By: theglitterkid

theglitterkid — Sat, 10 May 2008 02:23:16 +0000

I’m with nico, although I’m a fangirl Seriously though, I love your blog and I relate to so much of the stuff you write about. There’s really no easy way to get over something like this, you just have to get through it…