Comments on: I am such a sucker

By: freeandflawed

freeandflawed — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 12:21:45 +0000

Sandy -
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Thank you for sharing your story with me. I admire your strength!

By: Sandy

Sandy — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 23:18:58 +0000

You have no idea how much I connected with this post. Not the exact situation, but with the feeling of having to hold a dad up, and help him do what’s right because he can’t fathom doing it on his own.
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The big thing for me was letting go of the guilt. I’m the exact same way- I’ll take anything onto my shoulders, no matter how heavy, and do what I can to fix it. I give you so much credit. But remind yourself: he is a grown man. He makes his own bad decisions. Although it is excellent that he confides in you, it isn’t fair for all of that stress to fall onto your lap. Do what you can for him, certainly, family is incredibly important. But don’t feel that his mistakes are your mistakes, just because you are there to help him. What he needs is a wake up call. Good luck with everything.

By: alexa

alexa — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 19:14:00 +0000

now i read this post right when you posted it and i starred it in my reader because i need to think about what kind of advice i wanted to give you.
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and i still don’t know what to say.
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but i do know that you see the pattern that you father has picked up. you know that it is wrong and that is the good thing.
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just don’t let him bring you down, although that is totally easier said than done.

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 20:48:53 +0000

I have no words for this other than you are so strong and stable. My family has issues all their own, but I’m not sure I could help with something like this. Billions of Karma points coming your way. Hopefully Dad will grow up soon and take some responsibility. Ultimately (you know this already, I know) it’s not your responsibility and his actions have consequences and sometimes people learn best by experiencing those consequences. That is very hard to let someone fall to their rock bottom.

By: Kayleigh

Kayleigh — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 19:44:59 +0000

Jenn-
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I am so sorry to hear this. I can’t imagine having to be so strong and feel like I have to take care of my parents, instead of it being the other way around.
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You are very brave. And no matter what, you have to hold your head up and sometimes the hardest part is either walking away or staying around. Either choice can be heartbreaking. I hope you have support via other family members who can assist you in this situation. You can’t allow all of this worry and responsibility fall on your shoulders alone.

By: freeandflawed

freeandflawed — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 18:55:01 +0000

Allie -
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Thank you muchly for your email
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Clueless Cat -
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It could always be worse right?

By: Clueless Cat

Clueless Cat — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 03:58:13 +0000

Oh hon, I’m so sorry this is happening to you. It’s so difficult because you love your father, and you want (and I’m sure you feel a need) to help him. I hope everything gets sorted soon!! *hugs*

By: Allie

Allie — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 02:22:06 +0000

Wow. I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this.

By: freeandflawed

freeandflawed — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 00:25:23 +0000

B2G -
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Thank you

By: B2G

B2G — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 20:11:05 +0000

Jenn… I know what you’re going through. Seriously. My mom has many of the same problems. I almost didn’t go to college for the guilt of leaving her. It kills me when I go home on holidays and see how she’s living. She won’t help herself, and uses our family for temporary fixes that never last. I had to come to a point where I accepted that and moved on as much as I could. It’s so hard when you love them so much. You’re in my thoughts.