Comments on: I Don’t Know

By: ginacoggio

ginacoggio — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 20:47:26 +0000

Listen, please. Take it from me. I went to Brazil for TWO YEARS and my boyfriend let me go. We are still together and in fact we are closer than ever. We are BEST friends and we talk every single day despite the time difference. He even traveled to New Zealand where there was an 18 hour time difference. But because we love each other, because we committed to allowing each other to follow our dreams, we are together and there is no end in sight. I really hope the two of you don’t split up because it IS possible to stay together through the distance. You have to trust me on this. It takes getting used to but the freedom you grant to him to go and to fly and to do what he wants to do will ultimately be priceless. And he will realize that. I hope you are able to work things out. It really, really is possible.

By: ~angela~

~angela~ — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 08:01:55 +0000

I’ve been trying to come up with a good way to respond to this, but I don’t have one. You’re in pretty much the crappiest situation ever.
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Stay strong.

By: freeandflawed

freeandflawed — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 17:51:53 +0000

Once again, thank you so much everyone. I’d like to write an individual response to all of you, but I’d be repeating myself a lot. I appreciate all of the support and advice. You are all wonderful

By: Susie

Susie — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 17:04:09 +0000

Awww I’m glad you’re starting to make progress. There is nothing easy about your situation and I’m sorry you have to go through it I hope you get to have a fun weekend though, and know that everything will work out for the best. And you always have us here for support!!! Maybe I’ll even have to drop back to Chicago for some hang out time!!

By: jill

jill — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 14:14:10 +0000

i wish it could be easier for you. i was in a long distance relationship, and for me, i couldnt travel or go anywhere because i was in college. the now hubs was in the military and had a long weekend once a month. for a long time he drove 12 hours each way to see me for that weekend. he would take me to my monday morning class and get home late at night, when he had to be back at work the next morning. it was tiring, it was painful. but we made it through. how long is this assignment? can you wait say 2 years? can you afford a vacation once a year to where he is? I know that it really sucks. thankfully though with the web and international cell phone plans being a lot cheaper than they were just a few years ago, you may be able to make a go of it. when you make your trip, see what he wants. be ready to accept the answer. be ready to put those needs on hold and focus on yourself for a while.. build a business or get more schooling, whatever you think you will help you either a. make it through or b. transition to a newer/better life.
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i wish you the best of luck with the discussions and the aftermath

By: jamie

jamie — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 03:25:01 +0000

Remember this morning when I told you google reader was backed up? I finally got to this post!
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I hope everything goes well this weekend. I really really do. I’m glad you finally got to talk though. Communication is so important. Email or text me this weekend if you need to talk or just vent. Seriously.
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BlogHer 08!

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 00:32:07 +0000

Once again: oh my lord, I know exactly how you feel. But whatever you decide, you seem, to me, a smart girl who makes rational and informed choices. Trust yourself (if I may be so daring as to give advice) and follow your heart (LAAAME). I, homg, trulytrulytruly understand how you’re feeling right now and I wish you happy times over the weekend!

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 23:18:47 +0000

You are so strong, so brave and so grounded in reality. I know this has been a tough time for you, but this post reflects your inner strength and beauty so well.

By: erikka

erikka — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 22:03:31 +0000

I’m really glad you both were able to share and be vulnerable about this situation. Realizing it is tough for both of you, in different ways, is a huge step. I hope this week-end visit is cathartic, the closure you need, or even the beginnings of something new.
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A couple getting married this year dated long distance for about a year. One lived in Minnesota and the other in Alabama. Yes they had the phone, and email, and some visits, and they made it work. So…don’t just accept stereotypes that it has to end. If you both don’t want it to, and you’re both willing to try, who knows what you can make happen.

By: Holly

Holly — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 21:45:12 +0000

This must be a really hard situation! I hope things work out ok.