Comments on: We’re Just Friends!

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 17:40:59 +0000

Some of my best friends are exes of mine who I wouldn’t get together with again, because it just didn’t work out the first time. But we’re still close as friends. Is that more or less threatening to a boyfriend? I’m not sure.

By: Curlysue

Curlysue — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 13:50:42 +0000

Sorry, meant I am NOW dating a guy I trust more than ‘Duane’. Oops.

By: Curlysue

Curlysue — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 13:49:04 +0000

I have to say I recently had this debate with a guy I was spending time with several months ago. I actually just wrote about him in my own blog and haven’t finished the whole “episode” I went through with him. I agree to a point that people can be friends with the opposite sex. Yes, there are trust issues one must get over because if you can’t trust you SO then how are you going to ever trust them with much of anything; however, I think what makes it hard is when your SO starts to confide in that friend so much to the point they don’t talk to you about the cares and concerns of your relationship and instead discuss it with said friend. I’ve seen that happen to. Not with me, but another friend of mine. The guy I was spending time with, call him “Duane”, had SOOOO many ‘girl friends’ it made me wonder why. Why don’t you have more guy friends? Only one true guy friend is just weird to me. I think he actually had this issue with needing female attention more than anything. I’m not dating a guy who I trust far more than ‘Duane’ and I’m much happier. I need to start writing about the current interest Just started my blog too so….work in progress.

By: freeandflawed

freeandflawed — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 02:42:33 +0000

Sobe -
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Hahaha my bad. I didn’t want to make it seem like I was trying too hard But yes, for the record, she’s beautiful everyone!

By: supersobe

supersobe — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 02:35:17 +0000

We’re not best friends???????
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Love the new background.
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Noelle commented!!! YAY!!!!
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Thank you for what you said, you are so sweet. I’m glad there is trust. You’re right, I am really funny. And pretty, you forgot pretty. HAHAHA.

By: Julie Q

Julie Q — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 00:57:48 +0000

I guess I’m just a crazy psycho.. being married and all, yeah- I’d think its weird if my husband wanted to go catch a movie with his friend that happens to be a girl.. Although I do know a lot of platonic friendships that work, but there’s always a fine line that comes with that

By: Dan Mega

Dan Mega — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 00:19:56 +0000

My best friend isn’t female but one of my closest friends is. If a girl that I’m dating doesn’t like me having a close female friend, then thats too bad. Friendships between a guy and girl are certainly possible- just don’t make it physical. Not even that “benefits” thing…it will ruin a friendship.

By: jill

jill — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 23:22:30 +0000

good post. i really dont have any guy friends because i find i dont need them anymore. then again, i am married. i would find it odd if my husband had a friend that was a woman, and like wanted to do things with her, in fact, i’d be pissed because he barely wants to do things with me.. okay that’s not true, he doesnt want to do anything fun (monster truck rallies anyone?)
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this topic recently came up in another blog i read, where the blogger is a woman and her partner’s ex wife moved into the same apt complex. umm. yeah, and then she decided that they needed to over their whole marriage and why it went wrong on the phone. the guy went along with this, and even started hiding it when the blogger said, that’s enough (3 or more hour long calls a day) so yeah, i would say its nearly impossible. and it caused a lot of problems for them, which i’m not sure have been resolved yet.
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basically, if it makes your partner uncomfortable, give up the friend, your partner is much more important, oh and distance doesnt matter, as its easy to ‘cheat’ online…

By: so@24

so@24 — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 22:34:38 +0000

This is one of my favorite debates to get into people with. I went on a little bit on Jamie’s blog, so I won’t continue here.
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But platonic/true friendship is entirely possible. I’ve done it. I do it. And I’ll make more friends who are “just girls”.
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By: Noelle

Noelle — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 21:44:35 +0000

If you don’t let your SO have friends, you run the risk of ruining that relationship. Everyone needs an outlet. I have a guy BFF and I don’t really know why we never dated. I can honestly say that we’re close in ways I wouldn’t be with a girl BFF, but his GF seems to be cool with me, and my former BF was cool with him, and we were all happy.
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Man, that was sappy and full of abbreviations.