I don’t dress up often. I’m talking dresses, skirts, high heels, etc. But every now and then I’ll stumble upon a dress by accident that I absolutely fall in love with. I typically never buy them because I never have anywhere to go that would require wearing a dress. Especially one so fancy.
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I have a few hanging in my closet: 1. A black one that I refuse to get rid of even though it probably doesn’t fit me anymore. I wore it to a wedding in 2001. I think I weighed 90lbs in 2001. 2. A black and gray cocktail dress I bought in 2003 for bid night with my sorority. I never wore it. I think it still has the tags on it. 3. A couple sun dresses that I wore for my birthday or trips to the airport. Obviously can’t wear those in the winter though. 4. Finally we have a plain brown dress that could be worn in fall or winter. But I don’t like it much. I did at the time I bought it though.
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So when I found this beautiful strapless champagne dress recently I couldn’t talk myself into buying it. I’d have to find shoes and I hate shopping for shoes. I hate shopping for anything that’s not furniture, office, books or appliance related. I can’t dress myself. At least I don’t think I can. I hate trying to match shoes to a dress or a purse. I stood in front of the mirror holding the dress up to myself and imagining myself twirling around in it out of excitement. It was definitely a girly dress (I tried finding a picture online, but to no avail)
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I almost bought it. Almost. It was on sale and in my size, too! What could possibly be stopping me at that point? The harsh reality that I have no where to wear it. It’s definitely a party dress. Not something you’d wear to a family gathering either. It’s a dress that you’d want to be seen in and people would have a hard time NOT looking at you. It’s short, cute, and shiny! It’s most certainly an ideal New Year’s Eve dress.
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A fellow blogger told me to get the dress and make some plans, even if it means treating myself to a fancy dinner alone. Where the hell would I go to dinner? No place I could afford would warrant wearing that dress.
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So due to the lack of New Year’s Eve plans, I will not be purchasing the dress. Might sound silly, but I’m pretty bummed about that. When the person you want to look at you is hundreds of miles away, it’s fun to have an excuse to be looked at by others. But there’s no point. I’d end the night feeling lonely and upset because I spent money on a dress I’d never wear again.
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Don’t worry about New Years! This is the first year that I’m not going partying with our friends. I said F*ck it and told my hubs we’re just going up to my family’s cabin in VT and doing absolutely nothing!! (obviously champagne and food will be involved- but no dressing up). Too bad you can’t be with your boyfriend though..
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I hear you on the dress – I still think about this cocktail dress I wanted to buy last year…
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Julie -
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I guess since I never have made a big deal out of New Year’s Eve in the past I’m feeling bummed cause I’d like to finally. I’d love to spend it with the boyfriend as well…I offered to fly out there…
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Anyway, sounds like you have fun plans! Low key but relaxing
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Jenn, Buy the dress. Go to a dress-up party. Even if its just at someone’s house. No one ever cares if you’re overdressed if you look and feel fantastic anyway. Also- You could hang out with friends and conveniently not move on to that” super fancy party you were also supposed to make an appearance at.” PR trick. I digress, buy the dress. Those don’t come along too often.
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Jessi -
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I’ll have to find out if any of my friend’s are having parties. Most are having an easy night with their significant others. If something comes up, maybe I will go find the dress.
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Jenn–
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To hell with it. Get the dress, find a girlfriend or guyfriend and find a club to hit up in Chicago. I guarantee there’s someone else in your circle looking for something to do but thinks no one else is in their same situation.
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If there’s nothing that suits your fancy going on, just go to a nice bar and hang out. Order appetizers, drinks and have some good conversation for the night. Discuss what’s been great and what’s sucked about the past year and share hopes and dreams for 2008. Maybe this would be fun to do with someone you don’t know that well but want to get to know better. Hell, if you’re up for driving to Madison, WI (where I am), we can do this in my city. =) I have invites to a few parties, but don’t know that I want to spend all evening at either of them.
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My invite’s open…seriously. =) Enjoy the new year!
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Tears in my Coffee -
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I’ll have to see what the forecast will be like for New Year’s. If we won’t be getting an insanely huge amount of snow/ice, I might take you up on that
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I am the same way with dresses – next time I’m in Chicago and am staying downtown with my BFFBrian and not up in Roger’s Park with my brother (and I’ve left my daughter at home) — I’ll get Brian to take us out somewhere fancy and fun. We can get all dolled up. Maybe we can get dolled up and go to ESPNSportsZone. That would be funny.
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Sobe -
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I can only imagine the looks on people’s faces as we walk in all dolled up in cute dresses. I’m sure people will think we’ve lost our way. That’ll be fun!
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I’ve done much stranger things
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Sobe –
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I have a feeling many interesting stories are in our future
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